Find out more about the 30-day Praise Challenge for Parents and why I’m participating in it here.
2 July 2017
For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. – Psalm 139:13–14
Today I am learning to praise God for my children’s unique traits, including those I would like to change, instead of comparing them to other children. Indeed, they are fearfully and wonderfully made in His image, and His design is good! When I am tempted to compare and criticize them, I shall stop and praise God instead for my daughters’ unique designs.
Journal: Write down specific qualities that comprise your child’s unique design. Write out a prayer of gratitude for your child’s specific personality.
Big Sis’s unique design
- independent learner
- gets easily bored
- keen observer
Lil Sis’s unique design
- independent learner
Dear LORD, I thank You for this opportunity to help me get to know my daughters more before it’s too late. Thank you for reminding me that they are fearfully and wonderfully made in Your image and likeness, especially whenever frictions or disagreements would arise between us because of our differences. I understand that they can be very focused on getting what they want, even speak with me in a seemingly disrespectful manner at times. Please help me not to take offense when they do that. Help me acknowledge their uniqueness instead, help me accept and love them for who they are, at the same time, empower me to help them be the best versions of themselves, disciplining them as needed, out of love and never out of anger, hurt feelings, or frustration. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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3 July 2017
“Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,” says the LORD Almighty. – Zechariah 4:6
Journal: Read Hebrews 10:35–36. In what ways do you “throw away” your confidence as a parent?
I throw away my confidence whenever I tell myself that “I am the worst mother in the world”, especially after each time I would lose my temper, as well as every time I would ask God out of frustration why He had chosen me to be my children’s mother if they would only disobey me.
Today I am reminded that God got me covered. I can do all things through Him who gives me strength, even parent a challenging child. Next time I feel inadequate, I shall praise God for choosing me to be my children’s mom and praise Him by faith that His Spirit will fill me with wisdom and direction as I parent them.
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4 July 2017
The LORD is my light and my salvation–whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life–of whom shall I be afraid? – Psalm 27:1
Journal: Make a list of all your fears for your child and surrender each fear to the LORD. Write down something you can praise God for each of your worry (and put them in separate jars).
- I fear that my children would encounter someone who would take advantage of their innocence and purity.
- I praise You, LORD, for protecting our family from evil. Although some of our neighbors have tried to harm us, harass us, provoke us, misjudge and spread lies against us, they never really succeeded in harming us and You continue to be our shield. I even thank You that I live to this day to have witnessed You dealing with some of their sins, avenging us. Every day You prove to us that battles are ultimately won on bended knees before You and not by standing up to the enemies. Amen.
- I fear that when I am gone, no one would lovingly look after my children’s well-being and protect them from all kinds of harm or evil.
- I praise You, LORD, for giving us friends and relatives who always lift us up in prayers and try to look after our well-being too. Time and again, You have shown us that You also provide for our needs through others and we never really have to live on our own and carry our burdens all by ourselves. Amen.
- I fear that I may not be equipping my children well for the time when they would have to be on their own and live independent of me.
- I praise You, LORD, for providing for our needs, including the things we desire. I may not be able to teach my daughters everything that they need to know yet, but I am positive that as long as they have faith in You, they shall be able to succeed in life. Amen.
- I fear that I am not raising my daughters in the way they should go as the Bible says.
- I praise You, LORD, for removing the scales in my eyes, which allowed me to understand Your Word better and long for You. Thank you for creating in me a desire to become a Proverbs 31 Woman and raise my daughters to be one too. Thank You for giving me a hardworking and loving husband and for blessing the works of his hands, that I now have the opportunity to be a stay-at-home mom and homeschool our children. Please teach me to number my days that I may always impart nothing but love and godly values to my children each day. Amen.
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5 July 2017
By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. – Proverbs 24:3–4
Journal: Write about the particular areas of your child’s life that you need wisdom, and then write a prayer of praise, thanking God by faith that He will give you the wisdom you need.
Dear LORD, you know how it is a struggle for me sometimes to care for my teenager who has been through a lot, including having witnessed and experienced violence herself, and is still probably getting over some traumas, especially that I, myself, have personal issues to deal with too. Please give me the wisdom and grace to always respond to her with understanding and love, even if her words and deeds make her seem unlovable at times. Please help me see her, treasure her, care for her, and love her the way You do, the way You want me to. Please help me show her that her identity is in You, a child of God, a royal princess, and she need not look elsewhere to feel that she belongs or confirm her identity, her purpose in this world.
As for my tweener, please help me guide her as she remains curious about many things in life. Please give me wisdom as I try to answer her questions and help satisfy her curiosity. May You become her source of confidence each day, and may she never stop being a forgiving, compassionate, and generous person. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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6 July 2017
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
Journal: In what areas of parenting do you struggle with guilt? Where do you think your guilt feelings stem from?
I struggle with guilt every time I get very impatient with my daughters, disciplining them out of anger at times, forcing on them my expectations (of what a good daughter should be), and whenever I have prioritized house chores, work, or other interests over spending quality time with them, including failing to teach them well (at homeschool) and failing to fulfill my promises to them.
I suppose my guilt stems from failing to meet my expectations from my own self. I have expected myself to always be on top of things, be in control, get things done, meet my family’s needs and expectations, even manage my children’s behavior. I tend to fail to recognize that I can’t do everything on my own, my children aren’t things that I can manipulate, and that I need to rely more on God and less on myself or anyone to get through the day. Indeed, I need to remember each day that God’s grace is sufficient for me and that His mercies are new every morning.
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Please look for Days 6–10: The 30-day praise challenge for parents for the next part of this series. Thank you.