All posts tagged: long distance relationship

The ring

To all the OFW families out there and couples in long distance relationships, who had to endure so much pain but continue to trust and love each other, I most want to share this with you… My husband’s annual summer homecoming came a little early this year. He usually takes a vacation in May, in time for our youngest daughter’s birthday, which also happens to be his (and his mother’s) birth month. This year, he timed it for our daughters’ elementary school graduation and recognition day, and close enough to celebrate our post-13th wedding anniversary, too. This is the first time he’s coming up to the stage for our Little Baby Z, by the way. He was there when our Big Baby A graduated from kindergarten though, and now that she’s graduating from elementary. As for our wedding anniversaries (March 21st and June 28th), it must have been seven or eight years since we celebrated together. The thought of going up the stage with my husband as our daughters receive their awards for academic excellence …

Valentine’s Day for OFW families

  Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Every year, since my husband went to work abroad, I have been coming up with ways to celebrate it “creatively”. Perhaps it’s not such a big deal to some families or some individuals, but we do try to make the day a little bit more special. Or, at least, I do. After all, it’s love that we are celebrating on Valentine’s Day, and I want my daughters to grow up regarding it more as a family affair than a day for lovers. So far, these are the elements that are always present when we’re celebrating the V-day: 1. Valentine’s Day card. I supply the materials and then let my kids’ creativity flow as they make the best Valentine’s Day card. 2. Cake. We just got to have something sweet, and usually, that would be a cake. It doesn’t matter if it’s store-bought or homemade. I think we’ve already tried all the flavors available at Red Ribbon, but when it’s homemade, it’s usually cheesecake or brownies because those are the ones I …

The best wedding we’ve ever attended

My husband and I celebrate two wedding anniversaries each year because we were married twice, i.e., in civil (March 21) and at church (June 28). However, because he’s an expat in Singapore while the kids and I are here in the Philippines, we no longer get to be together on either of those dates since he started working abroad. And that’s when the real challenge began. First of all, our traditional celebration consists of me cooking a pasta dish (because we all love pasta) and buying a chocolate cake. (Depending on the budget and the availability of a babysitter, sometimes hubby and I would go out on a date.) The cake, however, is always a must! It’s the only thing that’s supposed to be a permanent fixture in our celebrations, especially after hubby has gone abroad. The girls would always sing us a happy anniversary song to the tune of “Happy Birthday” and they would blow the candles on the cake together. As we have fun–though not much fun, really, for obvious reasons–we make sure that we take …

“Time in a Bottle”

Our Big Baby A recently turned nine this October. We wanted to have a fun and memorable birthday party for her, of course, and I just realized that I was the one who seemed to be the most excited about it! I couldn’t believe how many times I had changed plans for her birthday celebration already, trying to come up with a small-budget Disney Princess-like ball. By the time I thought things were already perfect, I’ve already done enough, and everyone’s happy with what I finally came up with, however, I started facing new dilemmas. The first has something to do with the fact that she’s my daughter, my firstborn. That means I would love nothing than for her to enjoy her ninth birthday even if we didn’t have a budget for the kind of party we (or at least, I) wanted for her. I wanted so much of of what I had envisioned to become a reality and see her so happy! So when my husband pledged an amount for us to spend on her party, I immediately set …

An OFW Family Drama

After ten long months, my husband finally came home again from abroad. Although he stayed for only three days and four nights, it felt like he had always been with us. Or at least, that’s what I had hoped for everyone in my family to feel, including myself. I thought it would be good for my husband to witness and experience our daily activities. That way, it would be easier for both him and the girls to talk about things and make the transition less painful as well when the time comes for him to leave again. Hence, my husband and I agreed that there would be no fancy place for us to visit or expensive toys to buy for the girls just because he’s home, and we didn’t have the girls excused from their classes either. While our daughters were both in school, my husband and I spent time together doing the things we would normally do as a couple… talk endlessly, share jokes, watch TV together, buy groceries, cook together, and so on. It was …

Happy eighth: celebrating marriage

My husband and I celebrated our eighth wedding anniversary the other day, 21 March 2011. Very early in the morning, before heading home from an overnight stay at my parents’ house, my daughters and I dropped by Red Ribbon to buy a cake. My eldest daughter even insisted that I had a message inscribed on it, and so I did. Written beautifully in white icing were the words “Happy 8th Anniversary.” By seven in the evening, the girls and I could no longer contain our excitement. We were also already hungry and couldn’t wait anymore for my husband to get online at Skype. When he finally did, the girls started singing, “Happy eighth, eighth anniversary…” to the usual tune of “happy birthday.” They even danced and took pictures of their father and me as I held the cake for my husband to see through the laptop’s web cam. I also placed a delicate pink and white candle on top of the cake, which I had to light a couple of times as my daughters took …