All posts tagged: WAHM

Time management for busy moms like me

It’s only the 10th of the month, yet to me it feels like it’s month-end already. Somehow, I already feel tired and could no longer keep track of the days. It looks like I need to double check on my priorities and reorganize my schedule. I seriously need to manage my time well. I feel so harassed and overwhelmed at the tasks that I need to do. I’m also out almost everyday this month so far, and I’m starting to feel that 24 hours in a day is no longer enough. Burn out. I guess that’s exactly the word to describe what I’m going through now. I wish I could have a week only to myself. No worries, no concerns, no emails, no goals to meet, no marketing strategies to conjure, no meetings, no phone calls, not even text messages. Just a week to relax, be quiet, eat, read, pray, reflect, and sleep.  I actually tried to do that this weekend. I just spent the whole weekend with my girls, not bothering to check my email, we went to the …

Unwanted: last minute changes

Summer vacation’s over and just when I thought things were doing great, I find myself faced with a huge challenge that I could certainly do without. It was early Monday morning this week when I was awaken by a series of text messages from my younger daughter’s school, saying that their class schedule had changed from morning to afternoon. My reaction? I literally freaked out. I started crying out of sheer disappointment and anger. (Okay, so that makes me a drama princess, I guess.) I sent the school’s assistant directress an impassioned message in response, explaining how unhappy I was that they had to change their decision at the last minute, and explained in detail why the new schedule would not work with our unique family setup, especially for a stay-at-home mom like myself without a helper and relies on public transportation to get to one place from anouther. Not to mention that I do not only have one child but two, and their class schedules are simply opposite. This may seem such a small feat, but at that …

To stress or not to stress

  Christmas vacation officially starts today. That means I no longer have to wake up early to prepare the girls for school, at the same time keep a tight schedule as I juggle house chores, child care, online job(s), etc. throughout the day. However, I have a feeling that although there’s no school, things won’t really change much for me. I bet that a few hours from now–after I have gone to bed, that is–I would be up early again as I normally would on weekdays. Blame it on my body clock and the stuffs around the house that need my attention, especially our pets and plants. I have been neglecting some of the plants, it seems. The big alley cats have been coming in and out of our backyard and have apparently been trampling on some of them. They badly need some rescuing–I have to start transferring them to pots. Meanwhile, our puppies need a good bath and some exercise, too. Plus, I still have more cleaning to do around the house. Honestly, having …

My misconceptions about China

I enjoy teaching ESL (English as a Second Language), but I didn’t realize that I would actually enjoy having Chinesestudents and professionals in my online classes. Don’t get me wrong; it’s just that I’ve always had Filipinos and Koreans in my classes before. It was my first time to have Chinese students in class. I have also come to admit that I had so many misconceptions about their culture, their country, even their form of government. The following are some of them. There is no marginalized sector in a communist country, including China. I was fully convinced that communism exists to provide for every family’s needs equally, at the same time empower each citizen of a communist nation to have a decent living for the common good. However, one of my students told me that there are also many people in their country who belong to the marginalized sector. In addition, many of the poor people in their country become more visible in the streets when the Spring Festival is approaching (to beg for some …

Slowing down

Lately, I’ve been very preoccupied with my roles as a mother and though I am guilty of not being able to submit new articles both for my blog and part-time job, I have become less severe with myself, thinking that I could only do so much. No, not a good excuse for not working hard, but I guess I’ve come to a point where I no longer want to do so many things at a time. I’ve come to realize that there’s no need for me to prove anything to anyone. I just have to embrace my duties now as a mother, wife–even if my husband is abroad–and full-time homemaker, and until I do so, I don’t think I’ll be able to perform other roles effectively. Moreover, if I manage our finances well, there’s really no need for me to work at all, or at least for financial reasons. At first, I thought that I would experience boredom if I focus on my children and other household concerns alone. On the contrary, I still always …

Silver lining

I am getting distracted more than ever. I’m supposed to submit three press releases today and edit some academic paper, write two essays… and my laptop has not been cooperating until now. Since I installed a new anti-virus software recently–courtesy of my husband–it just started doing crazy things. Really, of all the brands he’d buy, I couldn’t understand why he didn’t choose the one I have previously been using. I got very frustrated, since I didn’t have time to go out and find an Internet shop where I could work, especially not in the evening and with two little girls in tow. Anyway, I only have a few hours left or less than a day before TAT (turn around time). I’d better get going now before I start failing everyone including myself. I’m just blogging to breathe and give some update. For one, my dear little Z took an exam this morning at a renowned Montessori school in the area. The result? Really good! Her mathematical abilities are way advanced to place her in Nursery level despite the fact that it’ll be her first time to …

Remembering my role

I don’t have much experience in declining a job offer, but I’m starting to gain now fast. As soon as I have completed my profile in oDesk recently and started applying for jobs that are really suitable to my skills, I started getting good responses, even invitations to an interview that include messages saying how much they’d like to have me apply for the job they’re posting. Honestly, I never thought that could happen to me–certainly not on oDesk where many freelancers who are just starting out get easily frustrated either because no one would hire them (being new, maybe) or the compensation offerred is just too low that it’s insulting. (Yes, it happened to me too.) When I think about money, I’d like to take on their offers. But I have to be realistic. I don’t have much time to work on numerous projects. In fact, I have just turned down the job I was so excited about the past few weeks because the training did not take place immediately as expected and my schedule has also unexpectedly changed recently. …

Looking for the perfect helper

A helper is supposed to help make your life comfortable by assisting you in getting things done. But if you’re not careful, she/he could also make your life miserable. Why I’m looking for a maid I’m a full-time mom with two young daughters, a graduate student attending a very prestigious (and expensive) university through a scholarship, a home-based worker without a maid to at least help me with the house chores, and without a husband (because he works in another country) to help me supervise, entertain, reassure, and discipline my growing up girls. And yes, I live very far from my parents; my nearest relative is my eldest brother who still won’t count as living near my area. I’ve been managing on my own by the grace of God for nearly a year now, which makes me wonder why I am looking for a helper now. My girls and I have been doing okay so far without assistance, aren’t we? Well, yes, to some extent, that is. My husband says that I get a maid to keep us company and to make sure that there’s someone who …

Full-time mommy gets a new full-time home-based job

I got a phone call at around 6 am today, inviting me to a virtual conference with prospective clients/employers. Two hours later, I found myself online at Skype, sharing things about my employment background, etc. To make it short, I just got hired. I’ll be working on a new account starting next week. I was thrilled to hear it, especially that I did not expect it at all. In fact, all I could think of during the call was to go back to bed. But, as always, I’m open to both new challenges and the idea of getting an extra income. However, a nagging voice tells me that it might not work out again, like my last job, for the same reason: although it’s home-based, it’s still a full-time job and I might get so cranky again, put my health in line, and miss spending time with my girls so much. Not to mention lose focus on my graduate studies. Since God brought me to it, however, I’d like to think that every thing will turn out well. After all, I’ve been …

Friday night mayhem

It’s ‘this’ time again when I feel torn by so many things. Clock’s ticking and the week’s almost over for me. I still have editing tasks to finish and submit early tomorrow morning, a research paper and academic essays to accomplish for my graduate class tomorrow noon, and lots of house chores to do. As usual, the house is a mess. And I hate leaving home early Saturday morning only to return to it in the evening in the same condition. My OC-ness seems to have been finally overpowered by my messy surroundings, and my decluttering attempts have not been very successful so far. My girls continue to do their ways, that is, watch a DVD movie on Friday night with a bowl of popcorn. They’ve finally come to understand that mommy has work to do and school assignments to finish, especially that it’s Friday night already… So why am I blogging now? Well, just taking some time off, I guess. Somehow, this activity helps me relieve stress. I write primarily to relieve stress. To …